Some of the images of Baranggay Andap, New Bataan when it was hit by Bagyong Pablo on December 2012.

Lessons learned. Philosophy to live by. Angsts that won't grow old. Values to emulate. (These ain't wisdom.)

1. Chill. Life's too short to worry about it.

   

   Jomtien Beach, Pattaya, Thailand.
   September 2013.

2. Do what you love doing and get paid for it.
3. Wake up with a smile. Thank the Lord for another chance at life.
4. Turn rejections into opportunities.
5. Never expect. 
6. Learn a new skill. A new language. A new hobby, perhaps.
7. It's never too late for anything.
8. Make things happen.
9. Create an ultimate long-term goal then enjoy the detours.
10. Love. Even if you're not loved back. Just love.
11. If people have hurt you, move on. 
12. Do not stop improving yourself.
13. Be a traveler, not a tourist.
14. Regret nothing. You made your choices.
15. Laugh. It's the best form of therapy.
16. Cry. It's the best sign you're still human.
17. Overthinking poisons your mind.
18. Never rely on another person's promises.
19. Always have a Plan B, a Plan C, a Plan D even if they're all crazy options.
20. Do not make New Year's resolutions.
21. Save up. A peso/penny a day keeps the worry away.
22. Forgive. But never forget.
23. Eat. Never starve yourself.
24. Pay it forward. 
25. Never forget the one's who were there with you when you had nothing.
26. Always give credit to the people who helped you out and gave you the opportunity to break through when you were still a nobody.
27. Create. Have no limitations.
28. Wonder. Have no limitations.
29. Be great at sex.
30. Learn the tricks of a great kiss.
31. Keep the close friends you've met in your teens and in your 20's. They'll be with you forever.
32. Think of age as just a number. 
33. Do not compare yourself to others. Compete with yourself but do not drag yourself down when  you fail.
34. There's no use losing your temper over petty things.
35. Someone is always better than you. And it's not a big deal.
36. Open yourself to exploring infinite possibilities. 
37. Live.

What a year!

Slow and steady, if I were to define how this year went by. It’s been the year where I shifted my focus towards different directions, ignored a lot of things (like this blog), learned new tricks, rediscovered new ones and missing friends.

Unlike the past years where I tend to take my life on a full, trajectory speed and pushed myself to my limits, the past three hundred sixty-five days were a combination of not as eventful yet memorable moments. Here they are:

That's our house in front. Residents near the riverside were already evacuating
 as the waters already rose to neck-level.

1.  THE FLOOD. - Ten years after our village suffered a huge flood, the nonstop raining that greeted us during the new year resulted in high waters. As our house has only one floor, we had to seek refuge to our neighbor's two-storey house and spend almost two days waiting for the water to dry up. What I hate about having to deal with flood is the mess we had to clean up.

One of the kids who survived Typhoon Pablo in Baranggay Andap
holding the school supplies we gave them in January.

2. DOCUMENTARY. - In December 2012, a strong typhoon, Pablo, hit the provinces of Davao which killed thousands of people. Together with two of my filmmaker friends, Coicoi and Yam, I thought of going to Andap in New Bataan, Davao del Norte to shoot a documentary about the survivors' experience in surviving Typhoon Pablo. Andap is the baranggay (village) that was badly hit, wiping out the whole area, leaving nothing but debris of huge rocks and sand. Documentary is something new to me, this is my first and I had a hard time grasping the process of telling its story. Unfortunately, something else took my time away and I completely ignored finishing the film this year.

With my mother and three brothers during my birthday dinner
at Nanay Bebeng's Restaurant, Davao City.


3. RECONNECTING WITH MY FAMILY. - I felt the need to stay in my hometown in Davao City so I could spend more time with my family. I had a small working space built at the back of our house where I spent most of my time conceiving my new pet project. And eating. Boy, how I gained weight during the first parts of the year. 

One of our ads for X Shirts.
Photo courtesy of James Gohetia

4. X SHIRTS. - How can you achieve a dream without doing something about it? With this philosophy in mind, I started fulfilling (one of) my long-time dream(s) of becoming a clothing mogul. The field being unknown to me, I took a step and launched my own t-shirt brand called X. The shirt carries designs of music and film icons as well as witty statement and one-liners.

Even foreigners love X Shirts!
At Matina Town Square weekend bazaar.

5. BAZAARS/STORE. - Inexperienced and with zero idea how to sell shirts, I tried to get into the dynamics of doing the business and it was not as easy as I thought. I did everything by myself - the licensing, the tedious dealings with government agencies, the difficult task of selling the shirts to costumers, putting up a store located where the consumers are the wrong market. I had to learn fast and I am still learning. At times I got tired and almost gave up but the endless trial and error didn't stop me from trying to make this work.

6. A STEP TOWARDS BEING MATURE. - I don't want to grow up, we know that. I hate being an adult. And doing the shirt business was a struggle for me. Since I was alone and doing everything, I questioned my choices and why I had to go put myself through something that was unfamiliar to me where I was already in a comfortable place in filmmaking utopia. But I went back to the reasons why I had to put up the shirt business in the first place: it was another facet of my passion. Business is a foreign concept to me and I had to learn. Perhaps learn the hard. And I'm still trying, that's the best part of it. I know I'll make this work.

With producers Stu Highton and wife Maria and Armi Cacanindin
during the Premiere Night of "Dance of the Steel Bars" starring Dingdong Dantes at SM Megamall.
This was the film I edited in Dubai.  (June 12, 2013)

7. RECONNECTING WITH OLD FRIENDS. - Since I stayed longer in Davao, I spent time rediscovering friendships with some of my elementary and high school friends – most of them are already married – and meeting their families and kids. There’s nothing more rewarding than putting a new bond on friends you haven’t seen in years.

8. ABSENTEE FRIENDS. – Something lost, something gained. While I had fun reconnecting with old friends from way back, my friends in Manila have been too busy figuring their own lives they almost ignored my presence. It’s been an empty year for me not having to spend time with them as much as I want to and I learned to understand how people can disappear from your life just like that.

9.  GYM. – I used to unlike people going to the gym. I saw them as a bunch of vain, narcissistic airheads. I still do, actually (this deserves a whole blog entry). But when I realized I have gained weight, I felt the need to lose the extra pounds and be healthy again. When I finally mustered the courage to enroll, I started attending boxing sessions. I had a great time for two months but I had to top because I had to travel.

That's Sherlock, my travel companion in Thailand.
Taken in Jomtien Beach, Pattaya.

10. THAILAND. – I love Bangkok. I love it so much I want to stay there for good. Soon. In the meantime, I had to contend myself with going back there at least once a year. In September, I travelled to Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Ayutthaya and Pattaya with a friend. And it pushed me to write the script that’s been going on in my head for a long time. I came back to Bangkok in November to buy dresses to sell for my bazaar.

September 2013.

11. SINGAPORE. – After Thailand, I flew to Singapore for the first time. To meet up with someone I met the year before in Siem Reap. A rendezvous more than a year in the making. A rendezvous for a closure we knew was inevitable (this, too, deserves an entire blog post).

One of the disadvantages of traveling alone is having no choice but take a selfie.
This one was hard to take.

12. MALAYSIA. – Without any expectation of what lies ahead of me, I travelled by land to Malaysia from Singapore and went to Melaka first then off to Kuala Lumpur then Penang. The whole Malaysia experience was a blast! And I say that as an understatement. I met new friends, explored really amazing places, devoured all the food I could put my hands on and did totally crazy things that were off my bucket list. I must say though that Kuala Lumpur was a bummer but other places could prove that Malaysia is truly Asia.

CinemaOne Originals entry "Alamat ni China Doll" directed by Adolf Alix, Jr.
took home awards during the festival including mine for Best Editing.
Photo courtesy of Adolf Alix, Jr.

13. AWARD. – When I got back to Manila, I didn’t plan on staying long but realizing that I missed films, I watched all the local films that I could, knowing that these were not accessible in Davao. I was approached to edit a CinemaOne film, Adolf’s “Alamat ni China Doll” starring Angelica Panganiban. I didn’t say no to the opportunity and boy, I was unexpectedly rewarded for it! I was crazy not to attend the Awards Night though, because I never thought I’d win.

14. SCRIPTS. – By the time I was in Bangkok and got inspired to finish the script that has been toying in my mind, I finally grabbed the momentum and started writing in Penang. I finished the first one, “360°” when I got back to Bangkok before flying back to Manila. “360°” is a dance film that tackles domestic violence. I finished the second one, “Love and Everything After” in Manila, a love story inspired by my travels.

Khao San Road, Bangkok, Thailand.
October 2013.

15. THE FINISHING. – I procrastinate most of the time. That’s my weakness. But this year, I realized that if I’m not going to make things happen, I’ll be left in the dumps, without having to compromise being a free spirit, of course. I’m still struggling with my shirt business but I vowed to make it work.

“360°” and “Love and Everything After” had been in the works for years and I finally finished the drafts this year. I finally returned to editing the “Andap” documentary and I hope to finish it by January this year. I missed filmmaking, the art that naturally runs in my veins. I am coming back to making films in 2014.

And this blog? I need to resurrect it, find more inspiration to write about anything. I am not sure if I can still find the angst that I had years ago but I’m sure there are still a lot to write about. My travels, perhaps. There’s a bunch of backlogs I haven’t posted in here. And photography. I need to go back to photography. And language. I need to improve my French and Thai. And gym. I need to go back in shape. Whoa, 2014 will be a busy year. Bring it on!








I'm a sucker for songs that remind me of pain. Songs I can't sing and songs I can't write. Songs that remind me of my youth, of how it felt like to be free and young and reckless. Songs that make me groove even if I'm dancing alone in the dance floor.

I'm a sucker for junk food. Junk for the stomach. For the brain. For the soul. For the heart. To store on top of your fridge though you don't eat any them during the day and sneak them out at midnight. I'm a sucker for fat. Of chubby men that remind me that it's fine to be imperfect. Of stocky men who can hug you through a cold night. Of strong men to be your pillar when you're too tired to fight.

I'm a sucker for books I can't read. For glossy magazines I refuse to buy. For concerts I don't watch. For sports I can't appreciate. For fights I dreamt of starting. For arguments I can't win. I'm a sucker for envy. To the people who thought of bright ideas first. To the winners of competitions I've been losing. To the bastards who are luckier. To the people who are happier. To the misfits who did better.

I'm a sucker for unfamiliar places. Where I can get lost and find myself back again. Where strangers become friends and friends, distant strangers. Where nobody cares. Where food and water make me sick. Where poverty is perceived differently.

I'm a sucker for memories even if I don't remember most of them. To only vividly remember how it felt.   How it changed you worse than what you were yesterday. How it made you wake up each morning thanking you're still breathing. How infinite happiness becomes when you let go of the 'was'.

I'm a sucker for love and all its complications. For a love that nobody understands. For a love that is not returned. For a love I don't deserve.

Lagi mong hinihintay ang pagbubuo ng bilog na buwan nguni't sa tuwing lumalabas ka para silipin ito, kalahating bilog lang ang naglalayag sa malapad na espasyong pinaglalaruan ng mga pinagmumulan ng liwanag na naaabot ng tanaw, hindi ng kamay.

Bilog kasi ang buwan noong huli kayong magkita. Hindi mo na maalala ang pinag-usapan ninyo, ang dahilan ng malulutong ninyong tawanan.  Ang totoo niyan, ang tanging naaalala mo lang ay ang alingasngas na naramdaman mo habang kasama siya, pinipilit ang sarili na tawanan ang mga hirit niya at nagbabakasaling bumuka ang langit sa mga sandaling iyon para magbuhos ng limpak-limpak na pangungusap na bibenta sa'yo. Bakit nga kaya siya ang pinili mong gustuhin?

Hindi naman kayang sagutin ng buwan ang lahat ng tanong mo. Nariyan lang siya para bigyang liwanag ang daan sa tuwing umuuwi kang pumapatak ang luha dahil nalaman mong may bago na naman siyang boypren. O samahan kang magmasid sa pinakamalayong bahagi ng maingay na dagat sa tuwing nakikinig ka sa hagulhol niya dahil may lalaki na namang nadagdag sa listahan ng mga nang-iwan sa kanya. Bakit nga ba ikaw ang pinipili niyang sumbungan?

Ikaw ang tagabigay, siya ang tagatanggap. Siya ang nagsasalita, ikaw ang nakikinig. Siya ang hindi mapakali, ikaw ang nakalatag. Ikaw ang nagmamasid, siya ang hindi lumilingon. Dalawa kayong naghahanap pero hindi kayo pwedeng magtagpo.

Bakit nga kaya siya ang pinili mong gustuhin? Takot ka man, sinagot mo ang sarili mo. Bakit nga ba ikaw ang pinipili niyang sumbungan? Takot man siya, sinagot niya ang sarili niya.

Hindi na nagpakita nang buo ang buwan pagkatapos noon. Siguro nga, natatapos ang mga bagay-bagay na hindi na kailangan pang pag-usapan. Sabay na lang kayong tumalikod at hindi na lumingon pagkatapos. Wala nang mahabang usapan, wala nang alaala na dumadaan sa kamalayan. Ang tanging natatandaan mo na lang ay ang pakiramdaman nu'ng sabay ninyong buuhin ang parte ninyo para sa isa'tisa nguni't kahit ito, tulad ng bilog na buwan, ay unti-unti na ring nawawala.

Lagi mong hinihintay ang pagbubuo ng bilog na buwan dahil alam mong wala namang pagmamahal na natatapos. Nagbabago lang ito ng anyo.

Last year had been a stellar traveling year for me. I decided to take a break from filmmaking in the Philippines, packed my backpack and travelled to well... work, eat, pray and almost love.

I didn't have much time to blog about my (mis)adventures and I do hope to find enough time to do it lest they get stale in my memory. Even the thousands of photos dating back 2010 are already rotting in my harddrive. Aside from working on the documentary "All You Need Is Love" (in Dubai and Bangkok), which is by the way still unfinished, I grabbed the opportunity to go to other countries and beyond. And 'beyond' means 8 countries!

I fell in love with Bangkok the first time I went there in 2011 with the lovely people, cheap and delicious food and a better infrastructure system than the Philippines so I came back during the last week of January.

At one of the temples in Wat Po, Bangkok, Thailand.

Then I travelled to Cambodia by land, first in Siem Reap to see the Angkor Wat for the first time and experience the eerie feeling of being in the mass graveyards of The Killing Fields in Phnom Penh.

Breathtaking sunset in Angkor Wat, Siem Reap, Cambodia.

 By February, I travelled for 12 hours to Ho Chi Minh City by bus to celebrate the Chinese New Year there.

New Year's greeting at the Flower Festival in Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam.

I went back to Thailand in March, to Mae Sot this time to shoot for "All You Need Is Love" and I met wonderful Burmese people there. 

"All You Need Is Love" Producers, Staff and Crew with the Burmese kids in Mae Sot, Thailand.

I thought of going to Myanmar after the shoot but decided not to pursue it and went to Laos instead.

In Vientianne, Laos.

By the 2nd Quarter of the year, my editing work for "All You Need Is Love" would take to the Middle East and back to my favorite city, an amazing adventure to Africa with my brother and discovering culture in Central Asia. More in Part 2 of this entry.